By Dianne Skoll
LGBT Perspectives columnist
A recent article on The Advocate site reports on Mark Cummings, a trans man for the past 12 years who is now saying he’s “ex-trans.” He and his new wife, Lynna Lopez, a trans woman, are trying “to build a movement against gender transition,” The Advocate says — which also says Cummings directed the publication to use male pronouns, “since people know me as ‘he’ for the 12 past years.”
Yes, you read that correctly. Cummings, who transitioned from female to male and still presents as a male, is telling people they “need to accept themselves for who they are — to accept the fact of who they were born as.”
And his partner, who transitioned from male to female and still presents as female, backs him up with this: “The body’s not the issue, the brain is.”
So, why did they transition if the body wasn’t the issue? And why don’t they revert to their so-called true birth gender?
Not only are these two seemingly saying one thing after having done — and are still doing — precisely the opposite, but their brains also appear to have mastered the knack of doing this without experiencing any cognitive dissonance.
If they think transitioning is wrong for them, fine. More power to them. But why can’t they stop at that point? Why do they feel the need to tell other people — people they don’t even know — how they should live and what is good for them?
Cummings and Lopez complain about people being “put into boxes” and labelled. In the next breath, Cummings responds to statistics about suicide by saying “A normal person does not commit suicide no matter how tough life gets.”
And Lopez, talking about Caitlyn Jenner, pipes up with “It normalizes everything, and it paints a picture of acceptance, with the Kardashians and everybody — they already have their reality-TV show, and now it’s just making it seem to be the new normal, when there’s really nothing normal about being transgender.”
Labelling, anyone? Putting people in boxes labelled “normal” and “abnormal”?
Normally, I wouldn’t bother talking about such clearly confused individuals like Cummings and Lopez. But for some reason, they seem to have gotten press coverage and a certain amount of support, and they seem intent on inspiring other people to become meddlesome busybodies.
The decision to transition or not is highly personal and nobody has the right to interfere, especially strangers. Cummings, Lopez and their supporters say that they don’t want to hurt the transgender community. But then they go on to deny that “transgender” is real, thereby invalidating thousands of transgender people.
Here’s a suggestion for Cummings and Lopez: If you don’t want to cause harm, then be quiet. Live your lives in peace and in health, making medical decisions that are best for you. And let the rest of us do the same. Butt out!
“Let harmlessness be the keynote of your life.” — Alice Bailey