Editor’s note: Are they confused busybodies or concerned citizens speaking from experience? Or both? In a July 18 opinion piece here, LGBT Perspectives columnist Dianne Skoll encouraged “ex-trans activists” Mark Angelo Cummings and Lynna Lopez to butt out of transgender people’s lives. Both Cummings and Lopez responded in the readers’ comments sections, and a heated exchange developed. In the interests of objectivity, LGBT Perspectives has offered Mark and Lynna an opportunity to explain why they are speaking out against gender transitioning. Update: Comments to this post are now closed.
Other Voices Matter
By Mark Angelo Cummings
We wanted to explain our point of view and why we are on this mission to educate and be another voice for those who do not fall under the same trans narrative and for concerned parents of gender-variant children. Puberty blockers are not safe for children, the FDA has not approved their use on children, and they are only used for treatment as an off-label drug. The side-effects are not only physical, but also mental. During puberty, the maturation process is not only physical in an adolescent, but also mental and emotional, stunting the normal developmental progression of a human being when it’s blocked. No treatment that involves sterilization has ever been used in any treatment of any kind or condition for any illness, in human history.
First of all, we stopped identifying as trans when we saw the inner turmoil that most in the community suffer from and the lack of cohesion and compassion many have for themselves and for cis individuals. We find that most in this community have many problems that lead them to becoming anti-social, show aggressive behavior in forums, groups and social media when their views are questioned or challenged; and end up demonstrating vindictive, irrational and destructive behavior that is not normal for mentally stable individuals.
We also found that in this community the selfish behavior overrides the altruistic way of being to include sacrificing the young to push their own narrative and needs forward. I also found after experimenting with the reaction from the community towards de-transitioners that they will throw their own under the bus when it questions their narrative or makes them question it themselves. We find that many in this community lack mental stability and the specialists who are handing out letters like candy are overlooking the major issues many are faced with. The increased suicide rate even after transition proves this as well as the lack of happiness from those whom even after years of transition continue to show maladaptive behavior.
The lack of understanding or even wanting to see the different perspective is alarming and rather disappointing, in a group that at best act like pubescent teens still in high school. What we hope to accomplish is to create stricter guide lines for transitioning, follow-up care for those who transition and for there to be an age of consent that is at least i21 years of age and also a cap for those who are too old and will actually create more problems for themselves and others. It is clear that the medical community is using our community to further their gains and cannot be trusted.
We feel we have been persecuted, mistreated and discredited in order to silence our views, all tactics that as a naturally born female, I really find no different in what men have done to females throughout history. My views are that men are using this tactic, calling themselves women to continue to demoralize, control and patronize my kind. Frankly, I am appalled and feel that trans women have been the ones who have prompted this change in my views and beliefs. We are not saying that people should not express how they feel, on the contrary please be happy. We are, however, saying that not everyone can justify this life- altering event, far too many are embarking on this journey and have no business riding this train. There are some variations of karyotypes who are justifiable, but even then, is the answer mutilating our bodies to fit the societal box? Or instead, and I speak from experience, should we educate society on the different gender variance and stop complying with the gender system? As a teenager and young adult I would walk through both worlds and felt at ease in both male and female personalities.
I believe every human being has a duality and the neurotic sense many face is because of the way they are forced to pick a gender and live life in such strict forms. I have noticed many in the community lack love in their lives, are miserable in so many ways, how can they not be, when they are chasing a dream that will never fully become a reality? It is sad to see, but when most remove the veil and this takes years after transitioning, the realization hits you hard, many commit suicide, others de-transition while the rest just live with the burden and feel there is nothing else they can do, after all they jumped and there is not turning back.
So for us to be judged and ridiculed by this community because of our different viewpoints is very wrong on all levels. There are many who feel the same way as we do, but they are too afraid to be vocal and remain anonymous. Personal attacks and not dealing with the issues at hand has been the typical response from this community.
In conclusion, how can this community expect compassion and understanding from others, when they attack outsiders and their very own for being different and singing another tune — bullies claiming to be bullied.