Yusaf Mack: An inspiration for those struggling with their bisexuality

Give Yusaf Mack credit: he’s done the right thing, after doing the wrong thing. The professional boxer has set the record straight about his sexuality.

Why was it necessary?

Well, you may have heard that he was publicly outed after appearing in a gay porn film. Mack had responded by saying that he was drugged and tricked into making the film.

The film company denied his claim and threatened to sue him.

Now, Yusaf has come clean, admitting publicly that he is a bisexual person, and apologizing for his initial lie.

Anyone who has been unwillingly outed as gay, lesbian or bisexual can understand what he has been through, especially if you are in a hetero relationship: Yusaf, 35, is a father of two. The initial panic can lead to irrational denial, which certainly seems to have been the case for Yusaf.

Black Sports Online has printed his full statement, which includes the following:

“This is an issued public apology from my heart. … I was completely aware and fully conscious during the film … I did participate in the adult film because at the time I needed money but also because I am a bisexual man. Meaning I enjoy safely being intimate with whomever I choose …

“My life was completely destroyed once it had been outed that I participated in a gay film. I selfishly tried to cover the truth and remain in denial, rather than accept the fact that I was leading a double life secretly …

“After reflecting on the mess I had made I realized that I hurt a lot of my loved ones and the people, my famCherry.d fans, I cared about the most were left disappointed and confused. It was unfair and time to come clean. I want to say sorry to my children and my ex fiancé, I am so sorry that I was a coward and hid a huge part of my life from you all. To the ones that were once my friends and now feel disgust, I’m sorry, but this is my life. I’m not looking for sympathy or even understanding, I’ve kept this secret for a long time. It is time to move forward and this is me walking in my truth.

“There are other men and women that are set up in the similar situations and I just hope I can be inspiration to be just be you. The extreme taboo and harsh criticism of living a same sex lifestyle, especially as an African American male, makes it hard to be completely honest and comfortable within yourself. But I had to remember that I am a champ & I can fight and will fight through this. I am more than my sexual orientation.”

You got to feel for this man. But I think that in making his statement, he will inspire others who may find themselves being outed before they felt ready to come out. Indeed, he may inspire others to come out on their own, so that they can live their lives openly . . . whether they star in gay porn films or just walk down the street holding hands with the men or women they love.

Hang in there, Yusaf.

— Jillian Page

P.S. I’m a bisexual person, too, and proud of it.

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